Argue Less. Love More. Build Together.
- Step 1: Take the Schwartz PVQ Core Values Survey
- Step 2: Order the LifeSync™ Core Values System
- Step 3: Discuss aligned and opposed values
- Step 4: Hack your Subconscious
9-12 minutes: tested in 49 countries
9-12 minutes: tested in 49 countries
That makes more sense! Ben's #1 core value is Achievement and that's pretty opposed to my #1 value of Caring. Instead of just being annoyed when he gets so focused, I'm going to try and use this to show him how a little compassion could be really helpful for us. And I'm going to try and give him more space to 'just do Ben'.
Ok, so Sarah's #2 core value is Tradition and I see that links to conservative motivations. I can see how this value is opposed to my #2 value of Self-Directed Action when it comes to planning the adventurous life I want for us. I bet we can figure out how to work her needs into our future.
9-12 minutes: tested in 49 countries
Loved the side-by-side Values Maps—so clear how different we are! The storytelling and strategy exercise gave us some concrete examples of our aligned and opposed values–and this concept of honouring our opposed values to reduce conflict is something we hadn’t consciously explored until now.
Your weekly SMS will include your SubHackTM Map and ONE key reflection question that you ponder for 5 minutes.
"Research has shown that values influence behavior more strongly when people have previously thought about typical applications of those values" Schwartz, Handbook of Values. Oxford Press
9-12 minutes: tested in 49 countries
Leading researchers in social psychology have shown that your motivations are driven by your core values AND, as a couple, your core values are likely to be different. So?
If you understand your core values and motivation differences there’s probably no issue.
When you don’t have clarity on those differences, look out! You’ll run into each other much more often than necessary and not really know why.